Should I continue to make my wife wear high heels?

I have been with my wife for 1 year now %26amp; dated for about 10 years before. Throughout our relationship I have told her how I loved her in very high heels. I just love how she looks in them and especially love the comments I get on her appearance from both men and women. I have always picked out her shoes for her and of course always buy between 3” – 4” heel.


The problem is that after 1 year of marriage she is starting to complain about wearing them from time to time. She tells me she feels pressured to wear them everyday. But for many years before we were married she wore them without question. I feel that she was just trying to please me and now that she is married she can forget about the heels.


Our fights are always over heels. If I suggest a shoe for her to wear out, she will get mad over the heel high. But then only after a fight will she suggest that she would like a new pair of heels.





Should I continue to pressure her on wearing high heels?

Should I continue to make my wife wear high heels?
Have you ever tried wearing high heels...especially 4 inch heels? They are definitely not the most comfortable shoe. Instead of pressuring her, let her wear what she wants and she might just surprise you and start wearing the heels as a treat for you on special occassions...without you having to even ask! Nobody should have to wear high heels every day. Don't pressure her and see what happens.
Reply:no you should love her however SHE chooses to present herself... you sound shallow, i feel bad for her
Reply:You shouldn't pressure her into doing anything she doesn't want to, it will sour your relationship.
Reply:Let her wear what she wants for a while. Eventually she'll probably go back to wearing the heels b/c she loves you not b/c she's pressured.
Reply:yes
Reply:It's obvious that you haven't been married long.


Rule #1





Pick your battles carefully THIS IS NOT ONE OF THEM!!!!!!!!!!!





If you think that this is a problem now wait a few years this is not worth pissing your wife off over. She KNOWS you like them. She will where when she is comfortable doing so and to please you when she wants to. Not when it's constantly expected.





Wake up dude or you will have problems later that will make you wish that you had said "go barefoot daily if that will make you happy"
Reply:how can u make her do anything u r not her owner
Reply:Mr Jazzman, The Year Is 2006. We don't live in the Victorian Times. Let your Missus choose her own footwear, heels are


great for an evening out, but not for everyday use, plays havoc


on you legs, back, most of all your feet, so give the poor lass


A BLOODY BREAK.


Goodbye.


Lain.
Reply:If you were that much in love with the high heels, you should have married the high heels. Marriage is give and tak. I would NOT continue to poressure your wife into wearing high heels, if she prefers something else. I would not make my lady do such a thing, because I love her, and care about how she feels about things.
Reply:I would back off a bit on that.
Reply:You're being extremely superficial, you know? You should be more concerned about the comfort of your wife and how she feels about this situation. She's not just eye candy for you to parade around...she's a human being...who probably has sore feet. Save the heels for special occasions. You really need to get your priorities in order.
Reply:You shouldn't have any say in what she wears - she can wear flats during the day and maybe heals for you at night. Heals as SO BAD for your feet. They cause bunions and hammer toes not to mention pressure on ankles and knees and hips... but the time your woman gets older he feet could be so nasty from the above you wont want her feet anywhere near you. These problems get worse with age so let her where what she wants to. You wear them for a day and see how that works for you.
Reply:Why do you have to put pressure on your wife to wear high heels. Do you feel embarrassed if she does not wear them. Or do you imagine without high heels she does not look as good. She should wear flat comfortable shoes during the day otherwise she will end up with alot of foot problems. It makes me think you are very impracticable and shallow. It should be up to your wife to wear high heels if she wants to.
Reply:Maybe you should just settle for her wearing the really high heels to bed. I would go insane if I wore them everyday but I do enjoy them when I'm trying to seduce someone.
Reply:let her wear what she wants. its up to her.
Reply:No, stop pressuring her. Let her wear what she wants.
Reply:I think you have a shoe fetish and need some therapy for it.





Your wife should be able to wear any shoes she wants to. Would you want her to tell you that you had to wear a red lace thong everyday for your underwear?





I hope she puts on a pair of sneakers and runs away from you.
Reply:stop pressuring her with the shoes, life is to short
Reply:Not unless you are willing to cope with all the complications of later life associated with high heels. ie. bad back, bunions, arthritis. Does she make you do anything you don't want to do? A marriage involves understanding. Understand that she wishes to wear lower heels once in a while and respect that. I am sure she will still wear the heels once in a while just to please you, but not if she is pressured.
Reply:Get real, man!!!!!!!





You're wife is in for a world of problems with her feet in later life, if she continues to wear high heels all the time.





Grow up! You choose your own shoes. Get off her case and let her choose her own.





How ridiculous to argue over something so senseless on your part.
Reply:Just suggest to her that she wear those heels for you on very "special occasions".......maybe she doesnt even have to be standing on her feet when she wears them ;-)


That way she still gets to wear them for you, and you still get to see her in them.
Reply:My first thought was to say this...


Why would you MAKE your wife do anything. Are you or partner or her controller?





Then once I read the rest of it I still stand by my initial thought. And add this...





She probably did just wear them all those years to please you. Which was her bad. If she really didn't like them she should have been herself and if you didn't love her for being herself then you are only loving the heels.





If you value your wife and not just the heels I would stop putting preasure on her to wear them. Even if she did really like wearing them they can physically wear on a woman's body. They may not be as comfortable now as they once were for her to wear.


I personally never could wear them. I liked how they looked but they hurt something aweful. I paid something like $50 for a pair once to please my bf (long time ago) He loved them but they ended up staying under the table the whole time we were dancing. And I never wore them again.





I can't imagine why someone would fight over something so trivial as high heels. If you truly value heels over your wife then I would suggest seeking therapy.
Reply:Get over your self. You are just trying to make her look better to make you feel better. She is not a trophy, she is ur wife. Love her for who she is and not what is on her feet.





PS that is a VERY weird thing to be opposed with ur wife's shoes.
Reply:Ok...as a woman, I can say that high heels ARE NOT COMFORTABLE! In fact, most of them are horrible. It's ok if you have a high heel fetish, but don't FIGHT about it! She probably didn't complain because she knew how much it meant to you to wear high heels, but after 11 YEARS of it, I'm thinking her feet are getting tired, and she's starting to get older.





Why don't you just ask her to wear them on special occasions, not just everyday? If you only ASK her to wear them occasionally, she may not have as big of a problem with it. If this is causing a big problem in your relationship though, I think you need to let the high heels go. That's not an excuse for a relationship to break up after 11 years.
Reply:THIS IS A GOOD ONE. JUST CHILL OUT SHE TIRED OF THEM.



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