Parents only? At what age would you let your daughter wear make-up? High heels (not spikes)?

My 12 year old daughter thinks it is totally unfair that we will not let her wear these things. I told her that she needs to wait until high school to wear make-up but the heels are another issue. She has ADHD and is always tripping over her own toenails so I'm just afraid that she's going to break her neck in them! But sometimes it is so hard to find nice shoes without a heel.

Parents only? At what age would you let your daughter wear make-up? High heels (not spikes)?
Mom, this is such a difficult thing for you. But it's one of many things you're gonna have to come across being a mother of a pre-pubesant teenager. Every parent wants their kid to like them. But that's not actually the best way to go about it especially with teenagers. Times like this as well as several others that will come again and again in the next 6 years you've got to be her mother and not her friend.


Make up....#1. Make up makes women look older in some cases and more mature in others. This will create attention towards your 12 yr old. From boys her age to boys older than she is. #2. Make up is really not good for the skin, especially at 12. Remember, she's going to get these surges of hormones if she has'nt already and make up can actually aggrivate her skin causing early acne and breakouts ( she's not gonna like that ). Let her start out with lip gloss if you wish. Some lip gloss has spf protectant and some of them come with just a hint of color.


Heels.....It's a fact that the later a woman wears heels the better. With your little one it's important to remember she's still growning and wearing heels at this point in her life it probably not the best thing for her feet, her still developing calf muscles and her balance. If you wish to allow her to wear a heel make it a chuncky one. Thin heels require balance. Lots of balance. I'm pretty up there in age and still a little wobbly on thin heels. But at 12? Hmmmmm, personally I never let my God-daughters wear them at that age. The first time they wore heels was when they got invited to their first homecomming and prom. Only at that time did I feel that heels were appropriate.


If you're feeling against the heels and the makeup for your little one sit her down and let her know what your decision is and why. Let her know that your mind will not change the more she whines. No one wants to deny their child something they want but as parents we've got to make the best decision possible for them for their own good even if they don't see it that way. That's why we're parents, not friends. I hope this helps you in some way. Take care and I wish you both luck.
Reply:We make a big deal about makeup, etc. The rule in our house is that if you've started your period then you are old enough to wear lipgloss and mascara. (there has to be a benefit for being caused all that hassle!) When you are old enough to date, you can wear makeup (after being given lessons by mom) and heels. The reason being that wearing makeup is really done for 2 reasons - 1. to look attractive to males and 2. to signal a certain maturity. I don't want anyone thinking my 12 year old is 15, and if she is wearing makeup, that might happen.


Explain to her about the unwanted attention she might recieve if she looks and acts older than she is.


Good Luck!
Reply:If she really wants to do it that bad let HER come up with a plan for you on how often she will wear her make up, where she will wear it, how much she can wear, etc. Don't just tell her NO because it will make her want it more. Align with her so she can see how you really feel, but put all the responsibility back on her about making good decisions.
Reply:16
Reply:I was aloud to wear heels when I was 10. They weren't high heels but they were heels. Almost every time we go shoe shopping, mom said to walk in the heels first (for at least 10 minutes), just to see if I'm able to keep my balance. If I don't trip, I keep the shoes. If I do, we look for something a little shorter.





As for makeup, let her use mascara, eyeliner, and lip gloss (choose 2 out of the 3). All the the other types of make-up (lipstick, eye shadow, ect.).





Of course, that's just my opinion, you don't have to listen to me.I'm not a mom
Reply:my daughter is still 17months old. but i was 13 when i started to wear makeup. just a little though lipgloss and mascara. and the heels i dont see nothing wrong with a small heel
Reply:id say let her wear the basics maybe some powder, a clear lip gloss,some mascara, and a light almost translucent eye shadow. that way everything looks natural, but really not noticable, and she will be happy because she will be wearing make-up, just as not much as she would probably like to wear. About the high heels try getting her a sandle with a plat form, it will be a shoe that makes her feel taller but you wont have to worry about her breaking her neck, cause the plat form usually covers the whole bottom of the shoe not just a little area.
Reply:probably 16+ because at her age she could acciedently fall or something
Reply:I would say 13, but if you don't teach her that light make-up is best, she will over-do it when she can. Try teaching her to wear a light pink lip gloss and a light, sparkly eye shadow, maybe a neutral color. You can also teach her how to put on a little bit of black or brown mascara. This way, she'll learn how to wear it right. Skip the blush, lip liner and eye liner for now.





For heels, I would suggest a wedge sandal. They are really popular right now and they are sort of heels, but sort of not. They are a little dressier than flat sandals and some come really low.





Hope this helps.
Reply:13 If she wasn't acting slutty.
Reply:i was 13. for both. i wasnt adhd though
Reply:Now that she is 12 I think you should let her wear a sheer color eye shadow and some clear mascara..and with the heels let her wait on thos..
Reply:I would allow light make-up at age 12. Lip gloss, eye shadow and blush would be plenty. No mascara, foundation or eye liner yet. As for heels, I personally would allow a small heel, pump style, for special occasions such as holidays, parties or church but go for the comfort of flats for school. If she falls a few times, she will decide on her own that they are not such a good idea, until then, you telling her will do no good. Ultimately, the decision is yours as her parents.
Reply:14-15+.. If you do make up and use cosmetics at this age.. your tender skin could get affected by the chemicals in the cosmetics or in the make up...





If you wear High Heels at this age.. your skeletal at your back might get problems at this age.. you might get pain ur back...





Consider it urself !!!
Reply:i'd say at 12 let her wear light eyeshadow and lipgloss...the rest of the make-up can wait. what about instead of heels getting her nice clog sandals? That's all I wear
Reply:I was 10 when I started to wear make-up,but make sure she keeps it natural(not bright red lipstick,eyeliner,mascara,bright eyeshadow,dark blush,she would look like a clown),just maybe some light eyeshadow,a little mascara,maybe light blush,and a lipgloss.I was 14 when I started wearing heels,there fine but start her out with like a small kitten heel,and she how she does.



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